Whose wedding is it ??
Writing by Jessica on Tuesday, 5 of May , 2009 at 9:45 am
I am the maid of honor at my sisters upcoming wedding. Of course I accepted this title when I was asked but I did not realize all the responsibilities that came along with this position. Now my sister asked someone else to be a matron of honor (complete mix up my sister is a big blonde and didnt realize that the maid of honor and the matron of honor are the same damn thing.) And after both of us knew… really nobody can bitch and complain right? Well I realized that I can. Because if you have two people in one position wouldnt you think the responsibilities would be split 50/50? Well in my case, they have not been split 50/50 at all. More like 90/10. For all of you who are unaware of the responsibilities that come along with the matron/maid of honor title… here is a list. (of course if you’re the maid of honor for my sister who doesnt make a solid decision a day in her life you can add like 20 more things to this list example: making sure they have a wedding favor & actually coming up with the idea, finding it on the net etc…)
matron/maid of honor duties:
Help in going with the bride to look at different locations for the wedding. Many times the Bride needs help in choosing where to have the ceremony and party besides what day and time to have the wedding. Ask if you can participate in this process since it can be a very stressful. - The matron of honor actually did help with this. She recommended the place that my sister actually chose. Okay I give her this one.
Bridesmaid dresses. It is very important to help make sure the dresses are ordered and arrive in enough time for alterations! It is helpful for you to attend the multiple fittings in giving your friend some feedback in how the dress looks and fits.- ME
I did not help my sister pick out her dress it is the ONE AND ONLY THING she decided on her own. Actually, she didn’t bring anyone with her when she bought her wedding dress. We all saw it after it when she decided to bring us to the shop to try it on for us.
Bridal Shower as well as the Bachelorette Party!- ME!!! (Although the matron of honor did cook for 4 hours the day before) so she gets some credit for the bridal shower too.
Help the bride choose her wedding invitations as well as possibly address the invitations if she needs your support. Many times a bride may outsource her invitations but if they need to be addressed by the family, your help will be key in reducing the load of tasks to complete.- ME
If the bride needs help in ordering and choosing decorations and favors, your opinions may be helpful in making decisions for narrowing down choices and making sure the decorations are in on time for the wedding, shower and bachelorette parties.-ME
Many times the groom does not want to go to register with his bride-to-be. You can be very supportive by going with your friend to register for her wedding gifts as well as letting other guests know where the bride and groom are registered. This is a very fun experience so take part in the choosing if she needs help.- Her hubby to be did register with her. BUT my sister asked me to go a seperate time to make sure she registered for everything they will need/want. YEAH SO THOSE FANCY KNIVES AND THAT ROASTER & EVERYTHING ELSE THEY GOT AT THE SHOWER… totally me. Yeah another saturday of MINE put towards their wedding.
Help the bride in the seating arrangement. This can be a very difficult process with the more people coming to the wedding. Many times it makes it easier to draw out the tables and move people around until you have a close to perfect fit. Note: It is very helpful to bring this drawing to the wedding just in case there are any mix-ups, you will save the day!- Yeah my sister wont even attempt this. She was like “I was just gonna put anyone anywhere” oh jeez… I will be doing this with her hubby to be & my mom guaranteed.
Help keep order and organization with the other bridesmaids. Attend and help out during the rehearsal dinner. Many times the bride, groom and their families are pre-occupied and forget about things which is where you can save the day by being organized.- My sister’s answer to anyone in the bridal party’s question “Ask my sister or my hubby to be thanks”… yeah ask the matron of honor anything she doesnt know.
Field messages for the bride and her family to make sure you are up on any changes (especially if they are last minute changes that affect the other guests).- Me
Attend all bridal fairs with the bride as well as cake and catering tasting.- My sister chose a place so well known for their food they do not do tastings they do not have to.
Some brides have a hubby to be that just do not help out as much as the bride would like… my sister is fortunate to have a great hubby to be who cares enough that he even designed their wedding invites after my sis said “Oh I dont care just pick any one of them” to ME. NOT MY WEDDING!! Thank goodness he cares… Or this wedding would really just be my wedding…without the commitment in the end haha. sweeeet haha.
Make sure the bride arrives to the ceremony and that she has everything on the maid of honor checklist. One of the most important tasks that a Maid of Honor must accomplish is to keep organized and have a list of items and tasks that need to be checked off to make sure nothing is forgotten on the wedding day! We have created a list below to help out. Make sure the following items are accounted for:
Dress
Bobby Pins
(Oh yay… do you see my excitement … I get to pack all that crap…superrr)
Be your friend’s “right-hand-woman” at the altar. She may be very nervous and you can be the calming source with your presence. - yeah I got her calming effect in a flask thanks lol
Keeper of the brides bouquet during the ceremony. Make sure you have a free hand.- yes I will do this. I will even have tissues stuffed in my dress for her if she needs them.
Keeper of the groom’s ring. It is your task to also make sure the groom’s ring is in your possession at all times until you give the ring over to the bride!- yes I got this.
Make a toast and/or speech during the wedding party since it is tradition and most people love hearing these friendship stories!- Mine is going to make you laugh & cry…all in one speech.
Make sure you lock up the bridal/groom money bag after the bride and groom dance with all of their family and friends so someone does not steal or pick it up by accident. - I think Im gonna make sure my parents know where the hell this loot is. I do not want this responsibility. thanks.
Last, but not least, provide moral support and be a great listener throughout the process since it is a very wonderful and “positively” stressful time for your friend. You can really make the difference!- Yeah who is providing me with my support???
Too often, the duty of “straightening/fluffing” the Bride’s dress is overlooked. If the Bride is staying on a level, straight path, then this can be done before her descent down the aisle. However, if she is turning, or stepping up steps and/or turning to reach her destination, then the Maid/Matron of Honor should first adjust her train before accepting the bouquet to hold. This is most easily done by holding the train at points about (2) feet apart, and gently “shaking” the train (as if shaking a rug!) one good time, and it will fall beautifully in place.- I got this.
All of my vacation countdowns begin now… let their honeymoon countdown begin…now.As long as they live happily ever after right? And I survive fairly unharmed from all the stress.
AND if you are as awesome as me… you make sure you add in a few extra special surprises here and there for their special day. -All organized by me, myself & I.
Category: Our Lives are just like Yours but not!
- Add this post to
- Del.icio.us -
- Meneame -
- Digg
Comment by Albert
Made Wednesday, 6 of May , 2009 at 5:43 pm
Amen! It sounds like you put as much effort in writing this blog as you did in helping Tiff! Good for you….
